Favorite Question of the Day

“Can you hear with earrings in your ear?”

Kalen asked this question randomly today.  I am sure something spurred it on, but I am not quite sure what it was.

I get loads of questions daily.  This was my favorite today.


Leaning Into

I heard the birds.  I could tell it was light outside.  It was morning.  He wasn’t beside me.  I heard noises coming from downstairs.  As I struggled to get my eyes open, I saw a sweet face and a hand with a small glass of orange juice in it.  I have not been well the last two days and Scott was there, first thing, to check on me.  Sure, he probably wanted to know what the damage was first thing, but also he was there for me.  He cares for me.  I grunted and grimaced.  Inside, I was smiling.  Although my throat felt like there was a fire within it, my heart was just as warm.

We have quite a partnership now.  After eleven years of marriage and four children, there has been a lot of give and take.  I feel like we are constantly leaning into one another.  I rely on Scott daily.  I go to him for laughter, for acceptance, partnership with parenting, strength, comfort, lightheartedness, care, affirmation, intimacy, support, togetherness, romance and love. There are countless other ways I lean into him.  He looks to me for encouragement, love, nourishment, affirmation, help in parenting, respect, intimacy, companionship, kindness and care.  I think it would be fair to say there are other ways he may lean into me as well.  🙂

I love that when he saw me this morning, he didn’t just ask how I was.  He complimented me.  He told me I was beautiful even when I was sick.  I rely on that.  He consistently loves me.

The Indigo Girls said it well within their lyrics of Thin Line with It’s a thin line between pleasing yourself and pleasing somebody else.  Isn’t that so true?  I am always looking for ways to love Scott.  It comes naturally for me, because I have such a connection with him that runs deep.  I really like it when he needs me.  When he leans into me for something, I am glad I am the one that gets to be there for him.  There is a thin line though, right?   If I meet that need, he is loved well and in turn shows me love.  We are attached within this web of love that we have spun.  Sure, sometimes we get tangled and misunderstood.  We stay determined and committed.  Love wins.

Now, I don’t want you leaving this post singing Lean on Me.  That wasn’t my intention.  I like reflecting on my marriage and experiences.  Maybe for you, think about who leans into you.  Are you consistently there?  Who do you lean into?  Do you appreciate them and show them how deeply you care for them?  I am challenged to do so.

Tonight, when Scott gets home from the class he has taught, he’ll most likely help me corral our children up to do their bedtime business (as we call it).  We’ll give each other sweet glances.  I’ll tell him how I’m feeling.  He’ll help calm any chaos.  He’ll read to each of the kids just after I do.  We’ll flirt as we pass each other.  We’ll meet one another downstairs.  I’ll collapse on the couch.  He will more than likely cozy up to me.  I will greet him in a warm way.  He’ll ask me about my day, he’ll listen and then massage my feet while he tells me about his day as I listen intently.  It’s a give and take that I love and count on.

Her Dance & Music

This was an extremely important weekend for Madelyn.  She had a ballet performance yesterday afternoon at Duke’s Bryan Center, with the rest of Barriskill Dance Theatre School.  Today, she sang in both services at our church.  Both performances were delightful.  I loved watching Madelyn shine.  Yes, I teared up at both.

I am so proud of Madelyn.  She’s a hard worker.  Her bright eyes lit up on two different stages this weekend.  As her mom, I am thankful that she has been able to spread her wings in these areas.  Dance and music are true gifts.  I hope Madelyn continues to enjoy and savor all the different ways she can express herself within the arts.

A Wink and a Smile

It was 2:17pm today. I was still homeschooling and feeling as if I had hardly picked my head up all day. All the children were at the table with me. Madelyn and I were going through her language lesson. Kalen was finishing a math workbook page. Julian was writing within his Wordly Wise book. Brayden was working on a puzzle.

I was dictating a sentence for Madelyn to write when I saw it. Just to my right sat Brayden. With two more pieces left to place down, so confident, he winked and smiled at me. It took my breath and made me giggle. He saw my response and did it again. I melted. What a gift. After all that has transpired today, the good and the bad, I was given a gift, a gift straight from the heart.

My day has different spin on it now, thanks to the little charmer.


Our family loves games.  I have found within our homeschooling, games are a must.  Playing games with our kids brings a lightheartedness that is needed within our schooling and our relationships.  I have a new found friend and homeschooling hopeful that emailed and asked what games I suggest for the five year old range.  Here is the list I gave her:

Hi Ho Cherry-O
Sequence for Kids
Go Fish
24-50 piece puzzles
Guess Who
DK brand Silly Sentences and Math Puzzles
UNO (a family favorite!)
Memory Games
Chutes and Ladders
Hullabaloo by Cranium (great group game)
Floor (big piece) puzzles
The Ladybug Game by Zobonondo
Connect Four

Also, really fun for this age . .
Kid K’Nex
Fisher Price’s Creatrix
Melissa and Doug puzzles and art supplies

Then for the older kids I recommend these above as well as:

I am totally up for recommendations. Let me know your favorite family games.

Garden Fresh

Harvesting from our growing garden is so much fun and super delicious!  Tonight we had some of our homegrown kale with some wild rice, tofu and bread.  It seemed tastier since some of it was fresh.  I’ll wash up the lettuce that I cut today for a fresh salad tomorrow.  I need to do some research for unique salad toppers.  We have this amazing lettuce that I keep topping with the same old toppings.  I’m up for ideas from any of my readers.  🙂