Building Up Others

There was a day I didn’t feel much like going to church.  Scott, being heavy laden with his dissertation, was needing to work.  Madelyn was at another friend’s home after a sleepover.  I was home with three boys recovering from a hectic week.

These three boys were experiencing a morning full of bickering.

I took it upon myself to call the boys together at our kitchen table.  I gathered some supplies and put on my old homeschooling mom hat.  I wanted to speak to the boys about building each other up, instead of tearing each other down.  Whether with our words or actions, it is often easy to forget the feelings of others.

I drew from this scripture from The Message Bible and Our 24 Family Ways by Clay Clarkson ….

I was definitely focusing on the middle where my bible says, Watch the way you talk.   Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth….

I asked the boys, prompted by our devotional, about words that made them feel good.  This was their response:


I demonstrated with blocks, focusing on the building up with kind words.  Then, I pretended mean and unkind words were tearing the structure down.  Our boys, even at 6, 8 and 12, latched on to this imagery.  Their words could build up or tear down.


I asked each guy to take paper and a marker and reflect on what we talked about.  This is Kalen’s response.  It reads, “Instead of knocking kindness down, build them up forever.”



One thought on “Building Up Others

  1. Lesley Bulluck says:

    Anna, these are true words of wisdom. I m making a metal note to do this next time we have a bickering spell. So simple and elegant….just the type of messages that stick. thanks for sharing

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