Tonight we were able to speak to a group of folks at our church about our fostering story. What a privilege it was to speak so candidly about the good, bad, and sometimes ugly parts of what we know fostering to be.
We were able to reflect and share about how we came about the choice to open our home to kids in need through fostering. We spoke of all four placements, seven children, that we have fostered. There were many ups and downs that we were able to speak about. We shared pamphlets that DSS was kind enough to let us give to those interested. I showed the group several books that I have read that have encouraged me and inspired me related to fostering.
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I must say, it was refreshing to be in a room with folks that wanted to listen and were open to the topic of fostering children. Not that the topic is foreign at our church. We have had several families that have fostered in the past. It was encouraging today to sit across from people who have this type of giving on their hearts.
I did not post about our last placement. In April we had the unique opportunity of fostering two sisters for almost two weeks. Because I was working full-time and our own kids still were heavily involved with soccer, I did not take the time to write about the girls. However, they were totally worthy of post after post. These precious girls were two- and four-years-old. Beautiful and smart, these two came to us and won our hearts. The case went to court and the grandmother was able to work it out to care for them, so they left us. It is amazing how quickly attachments can develop.
We continue to get calls. The need for foster parents is ongoing. Two days ago we got a call about a 16-year-old girl and her 5-year-old brother that needed to be placed. I have learned how to say no and not feel terrible about it. My heart does get heavy in that instant though. It is evident that there are kids in need in our community, but to know of a specific kid and situation is harder to gulp.
For now, we are taking a rest from fostering. We will continue to reevaluate our family’s availability. I don’t think our fostering story is over.
The books that I shared with tonight’s group:
*Another Place at the Table by Kathy Harrison
One Small Boat by Kathy Harrison
Damaged by Cathy Glass
Happy Kids by Cathy Glass
Parenting the Hurt Child by Gregory Keck & Regina Kupecky
*Three Little Words by Ashley Rhodes-Courter